Is it abuse?

Was this person really charming at first?

Do you remember feeling really special & the center of their attention when the relationship with this person first started?

Yes

Have you ever made excuses for this person's behavior to other people?

Does it feel like you have had to explain why they are the way they are?

Yes

Have you ever felt confused because this person claimed you remembered something incorrectly?

Have they ever told you, "I never said that," even though you are certain they did?

Yes

Has this person ever expected certain things from you, but doesn't do those things in return?

Does this person want to know where you are or who you talk to, but doesn't share the same information with you? Does this person expect you to speak to them in a certain way, but can speak to you however they would like to?

Yes

Does it feel like this person complains a lot?

Does this person make it seem like the world is out to get them or that everything bad that happens to them is not their fault?

Yes

Has this person ever told you the problems within the relationship are your fault?

Does it feel like everything is being blamed on you?

Yes

Does it feel like you are the only one who apologizes?

Does it feel like this person rarely apologizes, or if they do, it comes with a justification for their behavior ("I wouldn't have done it if you didn't...") Do arguments with this person seem to last forever - until you apologize?

Yes

Have you ever been afraid of doing something that might make this person mad?

Do you feel like this person gets angry frequently or rapidly? Does it feel like one moment you are fine, and then the next moment there is yelling?

Yes

Has this person ever raised their voice at you?

Have they ever used their body to block or push you? Have they ever called you names, swore at you or mocked you?

Yes

Has this person ever thrown what an objective person might view as a temper tantrum?

Do they insist on having things their way? Have they ever thrown or broken anything or made a mess that you were expected to clean up?

Yes

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